Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Multiple Bouquets

Sorry ladies, I don't see bouquet throwing events - not even one - at our wedding. 

Image courtesy of someecards 
YES. One decision made.

Now, ideas on what we will do...? There's something to ponder.

Tuesday, May 15, 2012


So, my lady and I were ALMOST going to be able to "civil union" each other... 


You know, it is the classic storyline of every great love story and romantic comedy... 

The girl gets taken out to nice picnic in the mountains, her significant other pulls something out of her pocket, gets down on one knee, and then she asks, "honey, will you civil union me?"

Been there, heard that one before.

Oh wait. Maybe I haven't. Maybe it is kind of ridiculous. Yet, nevertheless - even the most basic civil rights of a "civil union" are denied to us here in Colorado. 

I do find it confusing (and I don't say that very often, let's be honest here). I mean, it's one thing when you hear ignorant and fear-filled people shouting and twisting the words of their own religion to spread hate and fear to avoid their "sanctity of marriage" from being destroyed. 

However, as much as I still think civil unions are a mockery of what same-sex couples deserve, how ridiculous is it that religion is shaping government policy as such? "Civil Union" in no way mentions or includes the word "marriage," yet, somehow, we (and by "we" I mean "they") can still use the same religiously charged arguments about what marriage means and how same-sex couple should not have any rights? 

It just boggles my mind.

Luckily, it clearly boggles the minds of others in this nation.

Newark Mayor Cory Booker Blasts Gov. Christie's Proposed Gay Marriage Referendum:
In an unprecedented public divergence with Gov. Chris Christie, Newark Mayor Cory Booker said today he is firmly against leaving the question of gay marriage up to a referendum. "I shudder to think what would have happened if the civil rights gains, heroically established by courageous lawmakers in the 1960s, were instead conveniently left up to popular votes in our 50 states," Booker said in a statement. With the gay marriage debate advancing in Trenton today, Gov. Christie, who has long said he would veto a gay marriage bill, said "I need to be governed by the will of the people." But Booker countered that leaders are elected to make difficult decisions, not submit to a public referendum. "Equal protection under the law – for race, religion, gender or sexual orientation – should not be subject to the most popular sentiments of the day," Booker said. "Marriage equality is not a choice. It is a legal right. I hope our leaders in Trenton will affirm and defend it."

It Could Happen To You: It has been said that sharing personal stories is one of the most effective ways to change people's hearts and minds. This is my story and I hope you are inspired to share it with others.

Civil unions debate rages in Colorado

the other woman!

Sometimes I feel like this blog is my other girlfriend. Yes, seriously. I think about "her" (?) constantly. When I run, I write posts in my head. When I go to sleep, I think about posts to write. Throughout my day at work and out in the world I am sparked by things at every turn that make me think about my other woman, my blog.

There, curiosity immediately smashed.

Now, with all of that pomp and circumstance you might ponder to yourself, "then why on earth are you posting less than once a week?"

 Please, let me share a Boven proof (you can view the original and infamous Boven proof below).

Let B represent "blogging."
Let L represent "life."  
Let O represent "overwhelming." 

   B = O
   L = O

Consequently, if B = O and L = O, then B + L = 2*O

Therefore, living life and blogging at the same time on a regular basis must be twice as overwhelming. 

While the proof is true (clearly), I actually really miss not being able to blog as much lately. In other words, I really miss the other woman in my life. 

As much as it can be overwhelming when I feel like I need get something posted, I actually just really love doing the writing. It is likely the single most cathartic and therapeutic thing I can do for myself - I would go as far to say that it actually ties with going to my head doctor each week... and I pay him the big bucks. 

Perhaps I should reconsider that?
The original Boven-Betz proof that truly started it all (namely, me always being right?)
(You'll notice my edit on the address. I didn't think the world needed to know exactly where we live.)

At our amazing and wonderful engagement party this weekend (more on that soon), I was given the great advice to not worry about always having a fully flushed out post - but even post a short and sweet brief thought or even a picture... whatever I can, just so I get some satisfaction for the day. I like the advice. A lot.

Monday, May 7, 2012

"Gracias!" (Part 2) - The Laundry List

"Thank you!"

Oh, and by the way, what am I thanking you for again?

That sounds way more Mean Girls than intended. Let me explain.

So about seventeen weeks ago I left a real cliff-hanger. Well, maybe. (It also may have only been about two weeks ago... far too long, either way.)

However, this evening (on the way back into the house after a usual summer-time-even-though-it-rained-all-day-and-was-unseasonably-chilly King Soopers ice cream run), when my lady made and shared the exact same observation that I had originally intended my last post to be about, I decided I have to find the time.

As is clearly apparent by my last few posts as well as my lack of posting - we have a lot going on. Did you know we are getting married? Crazy, right? In fact, not only do we have a lot of things going on, but we have a lot of things that generally - per social etiquette (bazinga!) - warrant a "congratulations!"

And hence the two-part post.

Initially, this post was sparked by a co-worker I do not often see coming up to my desk and saying, "congratulations!" and me going, "thank you! I'm really excited!" I thought she was referring to the fact that I had just been offered the new job. Admittedly, I was impressed by her promptness - I had only just found out the afternoon prior and had only announced it to one person in the whole office. As she walked away she made a comment like, "sorry I was so late in finding out, I tend to find things out by word of mouth way after the fact." I laughed, said something like "oh no worries! thank you! it's still very new to me too!" and we both carried on. At first I thought she was silly for apologizing - I mean, she was really on top of things in my eyes (especially for someone I rarely get a chance to see, let alone talk to). As I went back to my email I realized that she was clearly congratulating me on my engagement, not my new job. She had no clue about the job. No one did yet. Bah.

This has happened on numerous other occasions. Sometimes I am being congratulated on the engagement, sometimes the job, sometimes something totally and utterly unrelated.

Since that day, I feel like I have been catapulted into this world where I have no idea what I am saying "thank you" for. Not that this is a bad thing - I am so lucky to have so many amazing things happening in my life. So lucky. That being said, in my head I feel incredibly guilty about the blanket (or perhaps "heavy-down-comforter" is the more accurate adjective)  "thank you." I am genuinely extremely thankful for anyone who takes time out of their day to congratulate me - no matter the reason - I just feel bad saying: "Oh, for what? I'm so overwhelmingly lucky right now I have a laundry list of things to be grateful for at this time.  Please choose the appropriate menu option using your touch tone phone. As our menu has recently changed, please be sure to listen to each option before making a selection. Press 1 for wedding. Press 2 for the new fabulous job. Press 3 for the new house. Press 4 for anything else. Thank you."

because THAT is a touch-tone

So yes, I am so oh-so-very-thankful for every single well-wish I receive, but I do feel like a bit of a damn idiot at times. Daft, in fact.

So, mint chocolate chip ice cream in hand, my lady shared a similar story to one of my own as we walked back into the house. Apparently she and a co-worker had a similar interchange, although I can't recall what the exact configuration of the mix up was (I was too distracted by the fact that she was having the same issue as the blog post I had never gotten around to writing). As she did not recently get a new job, this is a newer phenomenon for her with us in house hunting land. 

Which, of course, brings me to what I have said but not yet celebrated... we are under contract on a house! This may (help to) explain why I feel like I am being pulled in a million different directions,  and wedding planning and blogging have simply not been a priority. I mean, I turned the big 2-7 last week. I have things to do. Ha. 

We wanted to buy a house now so that it wasn't another thing we had to think about and be concerned with next Spring as wedding festivity planning got more intense. Moving + Wedding = Scary. However, I think that financially, either way, whew! Exciting but nerve-wracking. Having a (little) bit of a freak out today, it appears. A few too many trips to the dentist and a dog with a hematoma just seems to be adding on to (or into?) the crazy wheelbarrow. Oh sweet meatballs.

All that said, with our first wedding related soiree this weekend I am eager and excited to get back into wedding mode and start making some decisions. Loving it. What a wonderful world, right?

"thank you" "tesekkür ederim" "grazie" "спасибо" "merci" "obrigado" "gracias"